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Hi, I’m Daphne Berry.

Grove City, OH

Phone Number

(614) 218-4337

Email

[email protected]

Experience

LeaveAMark Church
Family Ministry Director

Education

Nazarene Bible College
BS in Pastoral Ministries

Church Affiliation

Nazarene

Years In Ministry

15 years

Personality

ESFJ

Skills

Building relationships, counseling, teaching, recruiting and training adult and student leaders, large event planning, administration, discipleship

Tools & Software

Church Community Builder, Microsoft Office Suite, Planning Center Online, ProPresenter, Text-In-Church

Personal

Husband: Steve, married for 23 years
Kid: Rachel (19)
Ordained to Ministry

Top 3 Strengths

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Family Pastor Questionnaire Responses
Personal Info
Please share briefly how you became a Christian.
I grew up attending another church. I knew religion. I was going through a difficult time in my life. and a friend invited me to a class at her Nazarene church. I attended and the square peg I was trying to fit into the round hole suddenly transformed into a heart shape and Jesus love enveloped my heart and I was filled. I asked Jesus into my life and have never been the same. I continue to learn new things each and every day and grow more and more as the Holy Spirit allows my eyes to be opened to the grace and mercy of God. I want everyone I meet to have this kind of experience and feel God’s love and forgiveness when they repent and give their life to Christ.
How would you describe yourself?
  • Fun
  • Serious
  • Motivational
  • Flexible
  • Inspirational
  • Loving
  • Organized
Personality Type
ESFJ
Tell me about some people (i.e. authors, mentors, and ministry leaders) that have had a big impact on you.
Henry Spaulding, Nick Engle, Stan Toler, Craig Groeschel, Norman Vincent Peale, Billy Graham, TobyMac – They have the ability to reach people across generations. These men embody humility, grace and mercy. They do not care about fame or fortune but utilize the gifts they have been given to share the Gospel with everyone they come in contact with. They build relationships and are not hindered with opinions but utilize the holy boldness of God to go into all the world and reach the lost and give guidance to those already on a journey with Jesus. Priscilla Shirer, Natalie Grant, Carla Sunberg, Lauren Daigle, Beth Moore – A friend expressed it this way and speaks volumes about these women. “Our generation is so busy trying to prove that women can do everything men can do, women are losing the unique qualities that set us apart. The God-given femininity & unique way our Creator designed us. Women weren’t creaed to do everything a man can do … Women were created to do everything a man can’t do.” – unknown The lioness does not try to be the lion. She embraces her tole as the lioness. She is powerful, strong, and nurturing. She does not mistake her meekness for weakness. The world needs more kind, compassionate, humble, faithful, persevering, confident, fierce, bold, pure, and tender-hearted women. These women are them.
Parents/Volunteers
How do you plan to engage and inform parents or guardians about your ministry objectives and progress?
Prayer. I am a Prayer Warrior. So prayer will cover our ministry first. Upon arrival, I would meet with the existing team to find out what works and what is not working. Then we would cast vision and mission that goes along with the church vision and mission. Working with the team to cast the vision and mission will help give them take ownership and have a stake in the success of the plan. Then we will roll the plan out to the parents/guardians and children and create an excitement about the upcoming year. We will make learning the stories in the Bible and God’s Word of Jesus and His goodness and the importance of a close and personal relationship with Jesus intriguing so the kids WANT to be there every week. I like to have weekly meetings with the team so we can dream, plan, stay on track and accountable to execute our plan and evaluate our efforts. We will utilize our calendar to plan one year ahead. Then work from there to plan the details of each event to stay 6 months out. This allows us time to be prepared to order supplies, reserve rooms, recruit the proper number of volunteers needed, advertise and any other details for the event. A monthly newsletter will keep our vision/mission, or a part of it, in front of the parents/guardians and help keep them informed of upcoming events. Then weekly we will send home a devotional paper so families can do devotionals 4 to 5 days a week to dig deeper into the Bible and learn more about the message from the weekend. The goal will be to bring them closer together and to continue to equip them to be the spiritual champions for their children. Classes, trainings and small groups will be offered on topics that will continue to equip parents to be the spiritual champions for their kids.
Tell me about a time when you developed a new team of volunteers into a strong working group. What did you do?
I moved from Grove City, Ohio to Eagleville, Pennsylvania to Fairview Village Church. I accepted an Associate Children’s Pastor/Upward Sports Director position . I was informed the Upward Sports program had been dwindling and needed attention to grow. The first flag football and cheer season I spoke to every player, coach, assistant coach and parent/guardian every week. Same for the Basketball season. There is supposed to be a team of Commissioners that oversees each season. There should be 6 to 7 members on each commission. When I arrived there were only 2 people on each commission. During the off season I set out to recruit proper people to oversee each element of the Upward Sports structure. Vison was cast so each person knew what was expected to make our seasons run smoothly. After the second season we had a marked increase in attendance and a buzz about how good our program was run. Montgomery County Pennsylvania has a contest called “The Best of MONTCO!” Everyone in the county can vote on which program in a variety of different categories is THE BEST! ie THE BEST pizza restaurant, THE BEST! doctor, THE BEST! Upward Sports program, etc… After my second season we were voted we were voted THE BEST! Upward Sports Program in MONTCO! It was such an honor!
How would you alleviate the confusion when you are communicating with volunteers and it becomes apparent that they don’t understand what you’re saying or vice versa?
Written communication is a good way to alleviate miscommunication. When in person I find it helps to repeat back to a person what they have communicated to make certain I have the details correct. If not, this gives them a chance to correct my understanding.
Spiritual Growth
Once you lead a student/child to Christ, how do you communicate their decision to their parents? Once a child accepts Christ as their Savior, how do you begin discipling them?
I always ask our team to follow the lead of the Holy Spirit. Having said that I like to schedule our lessons in advance so the weeks leading up to it and the devotionals at home are leading up to the altar call prepare the children and families for that date. We will also let parents know in our monthly newsletter and weekly take home. When parents pick up their child from their small group their leader will inform and celebrate with them. This can be recorded in the monthly newsletter and in the church records. Then the children will be enrolled in our Discipleship Program. We will help them take their next steps in serving Jesus. Our Discipleship Program will consist of classes to teach students how to be on our different teams: Greeter, Worship Team, Set up, Tear down, Prayer Team and Tech Team and answer any questions they have.
As the spiritual leader of the children’s ministry, how are you going to help volunteers grow in their faith?
Building relationships is a strong suit. I would like to get to know our volunteers and find out what they need to take their next steps towards Jesus. Then offer classes and small groups to foster spiritual growth. I also put a prayer box out for volunteers to put their prayer requests in that I collect after the service. I like to meet before each service with our volunteers to encourage and pray. This keeps us traveling in the same direction between meetings and keeps me available to people. I am always available by phone or email for prayer or coaching.
Ministry Growth
What is your philosophy of ministry?
When I worked at Fairview Village Church The “PLAYBOOK” of was our reference for processes and procedures. I have based my Philosophy of Ministry on this successful model. There was a process already in place to measure the goals set forth in the plans. They are as follows: VISION, MISSION, EXECUTION, ACCOUNTABILITY, and EVALUATION. We met and discussed these for each of our projects, and business plans. We wrote yearly Business Plans to help us stay on task throughout the year. These goals we accomplished, but not limited, through the following ten disciplines: 1. Relationship Building 2. Worship Services 3. Preaching 4. Baptism 5. Equipping and Assimilating Members 6. Effective Communication 7. Involving the Church in the Community 8. Personal Devotions 9. Spouse and Family in Relation to Ministry 10. Showing Appreciation to Others Relationship Building – A requirement to have five unique visits each week. But more important than that I enjoy meeting with people to encourage them, support and pray with them, and build our friendship. Have a core group that I meet with one-on-one once a month. Then reach out to different people as the opportunity arises to build my sphere of influence and get to know more people in the congregation. Worship Services – I planned services for birth through high school students, both large group material and small group material. I have had the sole responsibility and I have led a team in this task. I have chosen curriculum, music, began a student led worship team from the ground up, preached, helped developed teachers, filled in at the spur of the moment, and prayed along every step of the way. Involving the Church in the Community – One of the focuses of any ministry needs to be finding ways to get outside of our walls and into the community or bringing the community to our campus to share the Gospel. Finding a ministry you can donate supplies for homeless people to get supplies like toothpaste, tooth brushes, shampoo, conditioner, etc. where you can allow your children, students and families to pack bags is a good way to support a ministry in the community. Another way is to find schools that need outside projects done like weeding or planting flowers and do that at no cost to them. A way to bring people to your campus is through an Upward Sports Ministry. Spouse and Family in Relation to Ministry – Work/life balance is a tricky dance. There are times that I am at work/church more than I am at home. Easter weekend is one of those times with a Good Friday service, the Easter egg hunt Saturday morning, Saturday night service, and three services on Sunday morning. When this happens it is nice to take Monday or another day off to renew and be ready for the upcoming week spend the day with my family cooking together, relaxing and watching a movie, playing a board game, and chilling. It is nice “balancing” that time with them after a long ministry weekend. Even though there will be times where “time spent” is out of balance my family’s priorities are God first, family second, and career third. When priorities are out of balance is when things go down the drain. So I am careful not to misalign the priorities God gave me so long ago. Preaching/Teaching – Preaching and teaching have been part of my ministry since I began. I have assisted people in getting ready to teach and I have been able to step in and preach/teach when the scheduled person has not been able to show up. I am sure I still have a lot to learn, but I versed in leading children, student and volunteer ministry. Baptism – After leading a child or student to Christ, the next step is baptism. A baptism class needs to be taught before corporate Baptism takes place in hopes that many of them will be ready to commit their lives in this outward expression of their inward decision. Equipping and Assimilating Members – A “Welcome Session” or “Welcome Lunch” so new attenders can view a video about Pastors and Staff and find out all that goes on in the life of our congregation is a useful tool to begin. The Pastor or Staff Member that runs that session should be prepared to answer any question on the life and happenings at the church and how the attendees take their next steps in the life of the congregation. A survey is helpful for them to fill out and be given to the appropriate Pastor/Staff for follow up. Effective Communication – Communication is key. I seek to continually understand before I am understood. I want people to know I value them and appreciate the time they give up with their family to do ministry with us so I seek to keep communication concise and brief but have all the details available. Then I am available when they need to talk or for prayer. Personal Devotions – Fave! I enjoy morning devotions to get my day started in the right place. It may sound cheesy but I don’t care (haha) – the old saying “a day hemmed in prayer rarely unravels” is true. Prayer throughout the day as people come to me is one of my strengths. Then I end my day with study and prayer. I also enjoy being in a women’s small group where we study and dig deeper into different books or a Bible study, or in a WOW group. These have been special times in my life which I will continue as growing with my sisters is important for me as well as my ministry. Showing Appreciation for Others – I tell people “Thank you for your service” when they volunteer, but I am “known” for my snail mail thank you letters of appreciation arriving just in time when people needed an encouraging word. I implemented this card/note policy each week to four or five people may years ago so that every quarter each person that volunteers in any of the ministries I oversee will receive a written note of appreciation. This, along with our phone calls builds relationships, shows appreciation, and will let people know I truly care so that when they have an issue or prayer request they will feel comfortable coming to me. A mid-year celebration to coincide with the end of VBS and an end-of-year celebration scheduled around the church calendar (sometimes in January of the following year) are appropriate times to gather your volunteer team for an appreciation celebration. The details of each must be worked out in your budget ahead of time and planned for at least six months in advance. This allows time for communication, preparation, ordering of supplies, and execution. Accountability/Prayer Partners – Prayer partners are necessary for accountability, to answer questions, guide and direct me. It is my requirement to have a chosen few that can have the tough conversations IF necessary, and hold me accountable to the standards according to the call I have answered from God. I utilize Outlook to maintain a weekly, monthly, and yearly planner as a time management tool. When I utilize my time management tools correctly and communicate it to my team, it makes us more efficient and we can accomplish more for the kingdom and we are able to see more people come to a saving knowledge of Jesus. My Accountability/Prayer Partners are Crystal Armstrong, Roma Ellis, Christen MacQueen, Karen Messics and Connie Gallagher. They are faithful women of God who seek God’s guidance on issues and do not care what popular opinion suggests. This is why I know I can count on them to walk alongside me and pray for God’s discernment in matters of spiritual, personal and professional nature. My husband and I pray together for spiritual, personal, and professional guidance since he is involved in all of my ministries. He has been a Small Group Leader, a Large Group Teacher, for Upward Sports he is a Commissioner, Coach and a Referee. This allows him to have an intimate, working knowledge of the ministries which allows him to make viable recommendations when things come up. Financial Sustainability – Fairview Village Church is a growing church with financial stability at this point. Should that change, I have been in congregations where we had to do fundraisers to support the Children’s Ministry budget. It is not an idea situation to have to operate in that manner, but I have done it before and know the ways to make it happen if necessary. No matter where the finances come from I will operate and spend budget with good stewardship under the direction of prayer, direction from my Pastor/Mentor/Boss, and the volunteers that assist me in planning our ministries. When my husband and I were first married the congregation we attended hosted Dave Ramsay’s Financial Peace University classes. Since that time we have always utilized a monthly budget. At first it was difficult to stick to it, but once our daughter made her appearance we decided that it was of the utmost importance to follow this budget so we could provide for our family and plan for the future. We tithe 10% of our first fruits and taught our daughter to do the same. We have also explained the concept of living a better life on 90% in obedience to God than trying to cheat God and live on 100% of our income. The culture at Fairview Village Church was one that our staff took seriously. We worked closely with each other every day to accomplish the work God set before us. Then we played just as hard to build our friendships into a family we could count on to do life with. We had a common goal to help people take their next steps towards Jesus Christ, and disciple them into a life of service. This is the atmosphere I wish to foster for my team and volunteers. I want them to know that we will work hard and play hard. We will do life together and be there for each other. We will study in order to grow our knowledge of Jesus Christ and His love for us. We will to train people in order to disciple them so they can go out and minister to others. We will teach every child and student to lead others to Christ and to own their own faith. These are the core values of my Philosophy of Ministry.
What was the most creative idea you introduced in your last ministry role? What steps did you take to implement that idea with leadership, volunteers, and families if applicable?
When I arrived at the last church as the Family Ministry Director they asked me to bring cohesion to the department. So we began utilizing the same lessons from birth through 4th grade. I recruited small group and large group leaders for consistency. They were playing one video for music/worship once in a while. I cast a vision for a Student led Worship Team, rolled it out to the parents and students. Recruited and held training sessions for 2nd through 8th graders and began worship utilizing videos and live leaders every week in the 1st through 4th grade ministry. There were two leaders in the 5th and 6th ministry with no direction. I stepped in and began providing curriculum. I recruited an additional 2 small group leaders to meet our ratio and provide quality in this ministry. The middle and high school ministry had leaders from another church leading it and they sat me down to say they were burned out and couldn’t keep up with all they were doing. So I again stepped in and provided curriculum, recruited additional leaders, attended at the last minute when a speaker didn’t show to give the message, and presented the idea of live worship to our Executive Pastor who then formed the band to lead. Overall, these measures helped the children/students transition from one ministry to the next with ease and brought in new leadership which brought in new energy to the ministry.
How would you evaluate systems and structures to see if there could be improvement?
I have previously used a form to evaluate the systems and structures one at a time or collectively if they overlap. We will need team input to see what is working and what needs improvement based on our vision and mission and how it affects our ministry and the community as we lead people to take their next steps towards Jesus.
Share with me what you would do to deal with a fast-paced, always changing environment. Have you had this experience in a previous position?
That was life at Fairview Village Church and it was exciting! I was an Associate Children’s Pastor/Upward Director. My main ministry was the 5th & 6th graders – lesson planning services, recruiting, training, leading and preaching on Sundays. As well as planning large events. I was also in charge of Tiny Town – our Birth through Kindergarten ministry – lesson planning services, recruiting, training and maintaining volunteers and policies and procedures. On top of running an award winning Upward Sports Flag Football/Cheer and Basketball Program. I love the energy this ministry generated. Not only did our Upward Sports ministry draw people in for sports but they came for our church ministries. When I first arrived at Fairview Village Church our team consisted of 3 men and myself. We utilized shared space so whenever someone requested space they asked me to give up my space because I was the most flexible. As long as it did not affect the students I didn’t mind. Change is a part of ministry. You have to learn to be flexible and roll with the team and learn to serve Jesus in the most effective way possible for all involved.
What goals have you set in the past for your ministry area. Did you accomplish them and if so, how did you accomplish them?
When I arrived at Fairview Village Church (of the Nazarene) there were about 20 regular students attending. I quickly learned parents wanted more accountability with their children learning the Bible. I purchased the Nazarene Catechism curriculum and tailored it to this student body. I formed a program with a large and small group component and a competitive quiz at the end of each lesson. It was a 12 week program to give an overview of what each Book of The Bible is about. If a student attended 10 of the 12 weeks and was able to pass each of the 12 quizzes, they would receive a new Bible. When we began the program we had 20 students. By the third week we had a steady 35 each week and we graduated 37 students from the program. We celebrated by asked their parents to attend our service and trying to answer quiz questions with their students. Then we brought them up with their student to present The Bible to them. We served refreshments at the end. The students were then asked to bring their Bible each week so we could look up facts during the message and small groups each week. The program was so successful we repeated it every other year to make certain every student had a chance to earn a new Bible.
What would it take to grow a kid’s ministry program?
A vision and mission that is backed by a team of trained and caring volunteers who have helped develop the objectives and are willing to go the extra mile to see that they are accomplished up to and including but not limited to: prayer, study, teaching, leading, shopping, planning, building relationships, acting, singing and participating in music with motions, caring for the children by going to their sporting events, plays, and concerts. and going into the community to do all of the above to reach the lost.
Your members/guests and their families come to church with specialized needs, different learning styles, and family stresses. Do you have a strategy to provide significant ministry to meet these needs?
In past ministries I have had a buddy system in place for children with special needs or children with different learning styles. Families under stress have been identified by our Greeters, Small Group Leaders and directed to myself or our Pastor of Counseling to assist. An example is a family who had 2 daughters with special needs in our preschool ministry. We asked 2 women to Attend One/Serve One – meaning attend one service and serve one service with these girls. Each daughter had a consistent buddy they felt comfortable to attend church with which allowed the parents one hour a week to attend service without worry to be refreshed and be fed. They noted that it was what they needed to make it through the week and to help grow spiritually. Another example is Ethan. He was an elementary boy who liked to come to service but was disruptive to himself and others around him during large group. During small group he was also disruptive but could answer every question asked correctively. When the small group leaders reached out to me I contacted mom to ask her thoughts. We found he had ADHD. He was/is a great kid he just couldn’t sit STILL to listen. So we sat him towards the back of the room where he wouldn’t distract the other children and gave him things to do with his hands, ie fidget spinners, legos, and such. He could sit still and listen much better without distracting anyone around him. An example of a family in stress was Erin and her kids. A few weeks after I arrived at this church Erin’s mother passed away. Erin has ADHD and her mother kept her on task. Trish would call or visit Erin and family to make certain daily tasks were accomplished. She would help Erin make chore charts, keep her calendar up to date so she didn’t miss appointments, and stay on track with her WOW Bible Study. After her death, Erin began to say her husband was complaining that things weren’t getting done. A mutual friend came to me and said she was worried about the downward spiral Erin and the kids were on. I began meeting with Erin and the kids once a week to reestablish the routines Trish had set up for them and to counsel them through her death and their grief. I also encouraged them to seek professional counseling. I have been gone from this church for one year and 4 months and I still keep this appointment with Erin but we have our check-in once a month now and I have encouraged her to seek an accountability partner in the congregation which has worked well.
Describe the diversity of some of the ministries with which you’ve worked. How did you go about learning and educating yourself in order to effectively reach your community?
Grove City Nazarene was surrounded by a mix of people. First I went to some of the patriarchs of the church to talk to them to learn from the history of the church. Then I went to the library to gain facts on the area. Our team then set out to plan a variety of activities to reach the diverse group of people in the community from offering activities to welcome the children and grandchildren of the members of the Biker community up to and including welcoming the children and grandchildren of the affluent attorneys in our community. We set out to build relationships with the people and as we did they began to attend more and more activities and even our church services. While I worked at Grove City Nazarene I worked as pulpit supply for 4 months at Lower Lights Community Church of the Nazarene which is an inner city church. I taught in the Celebration Kids program which is part of the Celebrate Recovery program. This was a a totally different culture than at Grove City Nazarene. We had children whose parent’s were drug dealers, prostitutes, drug abusers, in and out of jail, etc… We had the task of reaching people where they were at and helping them learn how important a personal relationship with Jesus Christ is in their life. Then helping them take their next steps up to and including sometimes assisting them in getting out of the lifestyle they were currently living. Fairview Village Church was an affluent congregation and neighborhood. So oddly enough this was the most difficult community to break into and reach. The most effective way here was through our Upward Sports program. We reached many unchurched families that we invited to church and to our programs like our Easter Egg Hunt, Lights in the Village, and weekly services.
Is there a process that you go through when choosing a platform for screening volunteers, curriculum choices?
Volunteers are a good resource for new volunteers. When volunteers bring friends they know them and usually have a good recommendation. They are also more than likely to show up when they are having fun teaching and leading with their friend. This has worked well in the larger ministries I have led. Each church I have ministered in has already had a background check company in place so that has been taken care of for me. In regards to curriculum choice, it must be biblically based first. The different churches I have led have made a difference whether I have chosen a certain curriculum based on the volunteers available. In my first church we had a multitude of volunteers so we were able to utilize the Orange curriculum as it was written. In other churches we utilized different curriculum for large and small groups because I was the lead preacher/teacher or had two or three people who were on a teaching rotation. So with each church there are many factors that do into the curriculum choice based on the people available and the vision of how the team wants to run the program.
What have you done in the past to ensure your church has a safe environment, including emergency procedures.
The Church of the Nazarene where I have worked for the last 13+ years has a set safety and security policy we are to adhere to in any congregation. It is concise and thorough and I have been able to utilize it at the congregations where I have ministered. The non-denominational church they had a policy we began with what they started and incorporated what was left out.
How would you describe the ideal relationship between senior/lead pastor and kids pastor?
The Senior/Lead Pastor is the spiritual leader of the congregation and a kids pastor needs to follow their lead. However, an open door policy is nice to keep both parties on the same page and allow the kids pastor to be working in the right direction as she/he hears the Senior/Lead Pastor’s heart.

References

Shannon Hutchison || (614) 327-9049 || [email protected]
Lindsay Martin || [email protected]
Pastor Nick Engle || (405) 474-4776 || [email protected]
Pastor Toni Miller || (740) 637-9877 || [email protected]

Favorite Bible Story

Esther and Noah

Favorite Scripture

Jeremiah 29:11